Liberate Yourself From The Need For Validation From Those Who Cannot Offer It
“Lovingly, stop expecting validation from those who cannot self-validate. Stop expecting to be seen by those who cannot see. Stop expecting to be felt in your depths by those who cannot feel that deeply. Stop expecting to be honored by those who don’t know reverence.
This is in no way a reflection of your worth. It is simply a reflection of another’s capacity. If we let another’s capacity determine our worth we will forever feel stuck and alone.
Make peace with your worth and their capacity being two completely separate entities. If you get the two tangled, you’ll just limit your own process of waiting for others to catch up. And they may never because they might be on a whole other journey altogether. You would’t wait on a trail for someone who’s on another mountain.”
- Fallon Stone
Our worth was never dependent on validation from another.
We came here worthy.
We can learn how to discern.
It’s possible to repattern our nervous system and energy body to no longer sacrifice parts of us for breadcrumbs of being seen by someone else.
But if any part of us doesn’t believe this — if any aspect of us keeps waiting for someone else to give us our innate power, to truly see us on our journey when they simply are on another, and cannot, we are the ones who continue to suffer.
“When you become dependent on external approval rather than listening to your own inner wisdom, you are in danger of losing your power.”
- Isa Gucciardi
We do not have to suffer.
We can learn how to liberate ourselves from the negative thinking patterns, harmful inner critics, and addictive processes to cope and numb the pain.
We can learn to close, transform and reimagine the incomplete energetic karmic patterns of reliving — or record skipping — our suffering in our present day relationships.
We can rekindle the healing medicine of the heart to reclaim our inner knowing and ancient wisdom for deep, self loving acceptance.
Equanimity is possible.
Fierce compassion and loving kindness are the actions towards equanimity, cracking us open to the empathetic joy of reconnecting to the infinite web of life and Spirit.
Know one, begin to touch them all.
Gather an in-depth understanding of these practices:
One Last Thought
There is a magic that happens when we begin to source our own agency and inner validation from our higher Self.
We inevitably and naturally call in those who CAN and know the great honor it is to see us, and we truly begin to see others.
This is intimacy. This is trust. This is the action of love.
Our relationships become richer and wiser, led from the medicine of our heart.
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